by on September 13, 2018

in Monthly

“Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.”

These are the introductory words of a book, The Disappearance of Childhood, a classic bestseller I frequently review when I observe how our culture continuously trends toward rushing childhood.

The author, the late Neil Postman, who was the Chair of the Department of Communication Arts and Sciences at New York University, wrote this book in the early 1980’s and had to review it again a few years later, simply because the pace at which children mature continued to accelerate at a dizzying speed.

The hurrying of childhood starts as early as preschool. Some preschools have graduation ceremonies—with gowns, tassels and caps galore.

Even puberty is thought to be normal at earlier and earlier ages. It is now normal for a 15 % of seven-year-old girls to experience breast development; by age 8 this goes up to 20%. Around 10% seven-year-old girls also have pubic hair —this is considered normal.

Experts speculate that obesity, toxic stress and perhaps some environmental factors all may have a role to play in the earlier development of puberty.

Realizing that children are not allowed to be children for long enough, the American Academy of Pediatrics recently came out with a Position Statement on the value of play.

I shall never forget an picture in the Boston Globe’s Health section where there was a chalk outline of a child on the asphalt of a public playground; in the background was an empty swing. The message was clear—fewer and fewer children are to be found in playgrounds. Instead they are under pressure to study or achieve, in order to get into places such as Harvard.

Recently I met a mom who told me that in their family they do not allow any toys which are battery operated before the child is six years old. Her message was very direct: “I want my children to use more of their imagination when they play and I don’t want noisy or flashy toys.”

The mental impact of an accelerated childhood is huge. When these rushed children say good bye to the innocent years of early childhood they are at a higher risk of anxiety and depression; their sleep may deteriorate; they are at risk for developing pathological eating habits.

Mental health issues such as depression, anxiety and self-harm have increased dramatically over the past decade. In 2016, 35 children under the age of 14 took their own lives. In the same year, 203 teenagers between ages 15-19 took their own lives.

A recent report by Children First Canada lamented the fact that Canada is lagging further and further behind when it comes to access of high quality mental health care.

Children First Canada notes that Canada ranks a middling 25 th out of 41 countries in UNICEF rankings of well-being of children and youth. Children First Canada called for the establishment of an independent national commission for children and youth and for the implementation of a Canadian Children’s Charter.

Some parents have pulled their children out of public schools to allow for a more customized and child-centric education elsewhere. The interest in the Montessori education environment has exploded — more and more parents are open to a different way of educating their children

The late Dr. Maria Montessori, an Italian pediatrician, was the founder of an educational system which is described as different from traditional learning. Dr. Montessori said “The child’s work is to create the man/ woman that is to be. The adult will be a fully harmonious individual only if he/she has been able, at each preceding stage to live as nature intended him/her to.”

In the Montessori system children are encouraged to use all five senses to learn and at a pace that suits them rather than a system which asks them to fit a certain mold. (See

The author of The Disappearance of Childhood also wrote Reinventing Education, in which he argues for a more child-centric system, rather than bending kids to fit molds built by politicians and educational experts.

For parents who want to learn more about the price to society for hurrying childhood, I suggest a book by David Elkind PhD, The Hurried Child.

Writing for the magazine Psychology Today in June 2008, Elkind noted that, “Hurrying children is a problem that has always been with us. The irony is that no one believes in hurrying children. Educators and parents all say, “I don’t believe in hurrying children, but…..”

Paraphrasing Elkind, educators have become “slaves” to curriculums and legislators are “slaves” to their constituents. Ten years ago Elkind argued it is time to get beyond the But.

We seem to be unable to accomplish that.


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